The book filled with words of wisdom in the Bible says life and death are in the power of the tongue. Unknown to many, the words you speak to your partner go a long way to determine if your relationship or marriage lives or dies! If you are having problems in your relationship, you need to pay close attention to this article. It may very well hold the key to your happiness!.

There are some categories of words that are guaranteed to make your relationship or marriage blossom if you speak them consistently in your marriage or relationship. Below are five categories of such words.


How often do you tell your partner how much you appreciate something they do routinely? From paying the bill every time he takes you out, to her cooking your meals every blessed day.

I know it’s his or her job but that’s no reason to take someone for granted. Speaking words of appreciation shows gratitude and gratitude will cause your relationship to keep blossoming.


The word ‘encourage’ means to inspire courage. When was the last time you spoke words of encouragement to your partner?  Maybe she’s trying to lose some weight and she’s becoming discouraged.  A simple ‘Can you believe you’re looking better already? You can do it, don’t give up’ can do wonders

Maybe he has to go to a family meeting and he hates everyone there. You could say to him ‘Your ability to tolerate people you dislike is simply amazing. You’re so mature. I know you will handle that family meeting very well’

Give it a try and you’ll be pleasantly surprised.


Every human longs for recognition.  In personal relationships, words of praise meet the need for recognition. When was the last time you said to your wife, ‘You’re doing a wonderful job with our kids, I’m so lucky to be married to you”?

Or to your partner “I really love the way you relate with your parents. You are so caring”

Hey, it’s a tough world out there, all of us could do with some home support.


The tone of your voice to your partner is always significant and you need to be careful about this.

‘I love you’ can mean two different things depending on the tone.

‘I love you’ spoken with emotion is different from ‘I love you’ spoken without any emotion

If you always put yourself into your partner’s shoes and try to see events through his or her eyes whenever there is a disagreement, you will not find it difficult to speak kind words.


One of the most powerful forces on the earth is the force of Blessing. You bless someone when you speak God’s favour and protection over him or her. You don’t have to kneel in prayer or close your eyes when you do this.

Just say to your wife ‘You’re going to have a wonderful day today’ or say to your partner ‘You will come out tops in your Exams today’

If you believe in Jesus, adding the words ‘In Jesus name’ makes your blessing much more potent.

And so my friends, how many of the above have you been speaking? Well you can start today and I guarantee you, in a matter of weeks your relationship will blossom.