7 WRONG REASONS FOR DATING

Dating is going out on a pre-arranged date.  It means going out to a specific place with someone. You are on a date when you go with someone or a group of people to the Cinema, a Concert, an Eatery, Restaurant or party.  There are no strings attached to these dates and you can go on dates with as many people as you desire.  You don’t belong to anyone and no one belongs to you.  You are just friends. Dating normally leads to courtship.

Different folks have different reasons for going out on dates.  In this Valentine Season, we give you 7 WRONG reasons for dating. Check them out.

  1. YOUR FRIENDS ARE DATING:

Even if all your friends are married or hooked up, it’s not a good reason to get on the dating train.  The fact that everyone thinks you should be married by now is also not a good reason to start dating.  Dating is serious business because it leads to courtship, which leads to marriage.

Take your time and do not be pressured into dating.  Make sure you are ready before you start dating.

  1. YOU DON’T WANT TO BE ALONE ANYMORE:

If you’re the sort that is tired of sitting at home on Saturday nights, this is not a good reason to start dating.  You must learn to enjoy your own company and the company of members of your family and friends. This will help you to enjoy the company of others when you start dating.

  1. PEOPLE ARE ASKING YOU OUT:

This is definitely not a good reason to start dating, even if it’s Valentine’s Day.  If you say ‘Yes’ to everyone in your life, you will live a miserable life.  Be sure you are ready to date before you say ‘Yes’ when someone asks you out and be sure to date only your friends.

  1. YOU ARE OLD ENOUGH TO DATE:

I’ve always said no one should start dating until they are physically, emotionally, intellectually and spiritually mature.  People mature at different times. So you can’t have the ‘right age’ to start dating. If you date before you are mature along these lines, you’re going to have a difficult time in your Love relationships.

  1. YOU NEED SOMEONE TO MAKE YOU HAPPY:

If you believe that another human being can make you happy, you will end up disappointed all the time. Get real.  No human being can give you true happiness because no one is perfect. You have to learn to be happy by yourself.

You won’t believe just how much unhappiness dating can sometimes bring until you start dating. Dating is not all roses and candy.

  1. YOU NEED ‘SPECIAL FAVOURS:

In this crazy world, ‘special favours’ can range from promotion at work to getting high grades in school.  If you’re someone who dates to win favours, you’re cheap and your games will catch up with you someday.

Your dates may think you are really interested in them and not realize that you are after something else.  Someone is gonna get hurt sooner or later when the truth is discovered. My advice to you is that you learn to be principled and work your way up the ladder.

  1. SOMEONE IS MATCHMAKING:

The fact that someone (Your Mum, Uncle, Aunt, Sibling or friend) thinks they’ve found the perfect match for you is definitely not a good reason to start dating.

You should have your own criteria for a good date.  If you date just to make someone else happy, you’ll end up with lots of regret.

THE GENERAL IDEA IS, DON’T BE UNDER PRESSURE TO START DATING. THE ONLY REASON YOU SHOULD DATE IS BECAUSE YOU WANT TO DATE. GET EDUCATED ON LOVE RELATIONSHIPS BEFORE YOU EVEN START DATING. THAT WAY, YOU’LL GET IT RIGHT AND YOU WON’T END UP WITH A BROKEN HEART OR WORSE.