MY MARRIAGE IS HONOURABLE
MY MARRIAGE IS HONOURABLE
A DAILY DEVOTIONAL
MONDAY, 22ND APRIL, 2024
NIYI ODUNSI
BEWARE OF PATTERNS
“You are the children of your father, the Devil, and you want to follow your father’s desires. From the very beginning he was a murderer and has never been ..”(John 8:44)
Recently, we discussed folks in abusive marriages and I did say that most Abusers learnt it from a parent. Unfortunately, parents are role models for their children and they tend to copy their parents for good or for bad.
I have met people whose fathers abused their mother’s physically for years and they were so angered by it that they wanted to beat up their father. To their great surprise, these same folks grew up to abuse their own wives. On the flip side you have ladies who swore to never end up with someone like their abusive fathers. Guess who they ended up with?
This is why I advice young people to visit their prospective parents-in-law before getting married. Someone once said you should take a good look at your prospective mother in law. In all probability, you’re looking at your wife some twenty five years down the road. The truth is, humans produce after their kind and there’s programming that starts from when a child is in the womb.
When you visit your prospective in-laws, keep your eyes peeled. You probably may not get anything useful on the first visit as they’re likely to be on their best behaviour unless they have a strong dislike for you. As you visit regularly, they will lower their guard and begin to relax when you’re around. If you see anything that’s a red flag in the way they relate with each other, don’t ignore it. There’s a strong possibility that you may be dealing with that behaviour in your marriage in a not too distant future.
If the red flag is not a deal breaker, by all means stay in love and in prayer. If the red flag is a deal breaker, well, it’s easier to break up an engagement than it is a marriage. Its better to be single and happy than married and distressed.
PRAYER
I thank you father for your wisdom that is at work in me. I am prudent and I have insight and foresight to see evil and hide myself. Thank you for guiding me into all truth concerning my future spouse and their family. Amen
FURTHER STUDY
Proverbs 22:3, Proverbs 27:12,