“For God so loved the world that he gave his only begotten Son…” JOHN 3:16


Yesterday, we discussed the three kinds of Love required to make a marriage a successful one. I explained that of the three, Agape is the most important. Without Agape being at work in a marriage, the best you will have is a marriage where the couple barely tolerate each other and do their best to maintain the peace.

Its so important to understand what Agape is because it is the only true Love. If you don’t understand what it is, you are likely to confuse it or mistake it for Phileo or Eros. When a Lady says some guy has proposed marriage, there are two questions people will ask. Do you love him and does he love you?

If the Lady doesn’t know about these three kinds of Love, she could believe that the Man really loves her and be grossly mistaken. There are people who met and couldn’t live without each other. There are some who ran away with some fellow because they said they couldn’t live without the fellow. Then they got married and couldn’t live with the fellow.

Agape is the product of the mind, the Will and the intellect. It is a choice and a decision to love someone irrespective of who they are, what they do or what they don’t do. Agape is not the result of a feeling even though it gives rise to feelings. Agape is called the God kind of Love and we can see this in Romans 5:8. Christ died for us while we were sinners. He loved us as sinners.

Most people fall in love because of some wonderful qualities which they believe the object of love possesses. There’s something nice about the fellow that attracts them. Beauty, intelligence, shape, size, money, power, humility, kindness, are some of the qualities that make people fall in love. Nobody loves a “bad” person.

For most, Love is reactionary. Their love is anchored on who the person is, what they own, what they do or what they don’t do. The result then is that if the person for any reason changes, then the professed love dies. A beautiful lady could lose her amazing beauty and figure after two kids, a wealthy fellow could lose his business, a kind fellow could become mean etc. Life happens.

Agape Love never runs dry because it is not reactionary. It’s not based on feelings and its not based on who the object of love is, what they own or what they do or don’t do. It is a decision to love the person pure and simple. No matter what changes occur, you will still love the person. This is why Agape is Unconditional Love


I thank you Lord Jesus for loving me when I was a Sinner. I thank you for showing me what true love is and giving me the ability to love the same way you do. Thank you for giving me the Grace to love my Spouse unconditionally.


Romans 5:5, Romans 8:35, Romans 5:8