FRIDAY, MAY, 3, 2024



Henceforth I call you not servants; for the servant knoweth not what his lord doeth: but I have called you friends; for all things that I have heard of my Father I have made known unto you. John 15:15

Yesterday, we discussed the importance of marrying a friend rather than a Lover. When you marry a Lover, you’re married to a stranger and this is why a lot of marriages fail. People allow romance and sex to cloud their perception and they get all tangled up emotionally. After marriage, they begin to see clearer and trouble starts.

Someone may say, “ Well, I didn’t know I should marry my friend. Now that I’m married to this stranger, what can I do?”. Well, you’re in a good place if both of you are Believers and you are committed to making your marriage work. Once you’re both agreed that Divorce is not an option, there’s still hope for you.

One of the major reasons why people become friends is because they have something in common. I mean, if you have nothing in common, why would you want to spend time together? If the attraction is all physical, what happens after sex? Surely, you can’t spend all your days in bed.

A good place to begin is to find what you and your spouse enjoy doing. What do you have in common? Praying, studying the Bible, reading, watching movies, sports, cooking, shopping, going out, travelling, partying, whatever. And if you have nothing that you can do together, then find out what each one likes and get the other spouse committed to learning all about it.

What you have to do is to start learning how to do things together. Then you should start going out on dates, just the two of you. If you have children, get someone you trust to help you babysit for some time. You have to be ready to be transparent with each other as you really talk about what’s important to both of you. Communication, open communication is crucial in every marriage.

Remember that a friend is someone you know, like, trust and respect. It starts with knowing each other. Since you’re married, you have to be prepared to reach a compromise in a lot of things. Each person will have their opinion and even when you disagree, you have to respect each other’s opinion. As you talk and get to know each other better, you create the right environment to like each other, trust and respect each other. This is how friendship starts.

It takes time to become friends and then Best Friends. Jesus was with His Disciples for three years before He called them friends. Don’t be in a hurry and don’t get discouraged. Making your spouse your Best Friend, is the best thing you can do. That’s the way to really enjoy marriage.


Thank you Lord for showing me the wisdom of making my spouse, my best Friend. I receive Grace today to commence on the journey of making my spouse my best friend. Thank you for helping me Lord. Amen.


John 15:15, Proverbs 18:24