SUNDAY, MAY, 5, 2024



A man that hath friends must shew himself friendly: And there is a friend that sticketh closer than a brother.

Proverbs 18:24

Yesterday, we dwelt on the importance of a wife taking on the responsibility of becoming friends with her husband. In most cases, before marriage, it is the norm that the husband woes the wife. At this time, the husband is at his best, trying to prove his love for her. After the marriage, it often becomes a case of “The thrill is in the chase”. The husband has the prize, there’s no motivation to continue to impress his wife.

Most wives get upset and can even begin to despise their husbands. This is the way of the world and while one can justify the wife’s upset, its not going to make her marriage better. In most cases also, because of the romance and involvement in sex before marriage, the couple soon discover that they really don’t know much about each other.

The courtship and engagement seasons that should have been spent getting to really know each other and planning a life and future together, was spent saying sweet nothings and looking into each other’s eyes. After marriage, many spouses declare that their partner  changed. No, they didn’t change. You just didn’t really know them.

One of the ways out of the dilemma is what Titus 2:4 says. A young wife has to learn to make friends with her husband. If her parents are happily married, I can bet you that they are friends and the wife’s mother is the best person to teach her daughter how to learn to make friends with her husband.

If the wife doesn’t have a mother who can teach her how to become friends with her husband, she has to find someone else to teach her. And this is why its important to belong to a church community where there are role models for marriage. If you get someone that’s not a Believer to be your role model, she will likely lead you astray.

Wives have to understand that most men would cherish a wife who is their friend. Every man craves for a cheerleader and when a wife decides to become the husband’s best cheerleader, encouraging and supporting him, he will be quick to reciprocate. As Mike Murdock said, “In every man, there is a King and a fool. Whichever one you speak to, will respond”.


Thank you father for again teaching me about the importance of Friendship in marriage, seeking for a godly woman as my role model in marriage and making friends with my dear husband. I receive guidance as to the person to choose as my role model, in the Name of Jesus. Amen


Proverbs 18:24, Titus 2:4, 1 Samuel 25:1-39