MONDAY, MAY, 13, 2024



Let her be as the loving hind and pleasant roe; Let her breasts satisfy thee at all times; And be thou ravished always with her love. Proverbs 5:19

Yesterday we discussed the role of sex in marriage and mentioned that lack of sexual satisfaction is becoming one of the leading causes of Divorce in marriages, even in Christian marriages. The primary cause of lack of fulfillment in bed is ignorance. Research has shown that but for health challenges, every man or woman is able to enjoy great sex in marriage.

There is adultery in churches and some of it stems from lack of understanding as to the nature of sex generally. A man or woman that is not getting sexual fulfillment at home could easily fall prey to seduction. Many people are unaware that the great Apostle Paul alluded to this in 1 Corinthians chapter 7 when he warned couples not to stay apart for too long so as not to be tempted by the enemy.

Apostle Paul also made a most important statement in 1 Corinthians 7 when he revealed that the husband’s body belongs to the wife and the wife’s body belongs to the Husband. There are cases where a spouse starves the partner of sex and they expect the partner to take it in their stride. This can be dangerous. The only reason you can deny your spouse sexual relations is for the purpose of fasting, and that with consent.

There is also the matter of what is allowed or acceptable to Christians in bed. A partner may demand for a style which the other partner believes is “unholy”.  Someone might prefer the missionary style and another, what is called sixty nine. Well, I believe that anything that’s agreeable to both of them is fine with God, if it isn’t sin. A threesome is not acceptable.

A partner however has no right to insist on a particular style if their partner is uncomfortable with that style. To insist on having one’s way is not Love. 1 Corinthians 13, clearly tells us that Love doesn’t insist on having its own way. Couples have to learn to discuss their preference and learn to make compromises, if they intend to enjoy great sex in their marriage.

A word of warning though. Please stay away from pornography and masturbation. They will ruin your sex life and your home.


Thank you Lord Jesus for giving me the Grace to possess my vessel as a vessel of honour and not in Lust. I will enjoy marital sex  in a way that glorifies God in my marriage and home, Amen.


1 Corinthians 7:3-4. 1Corinthians 7:5, 1 Corinthians 13:5