TUESDAY, 23rd APRIL, 2024



“I find then a law, that, when I would do good, evil is present with me.” Romans 7:21

Have you ever wondered why people who should know better end up doing foolish things? Why would a husband married to an educated, beautiful wife, cheat on her with their illiterate Maid? Why would a wife who is married to a kind-hearted devoted husband, run off with some Casanova who is sure to leave her high and dry?

Scientists have discovered something quite interesting about humans. Every human goes through what is called programming from when they’re in the womb and throughout their life, without knowing it. It has been proven that babies in the womb are aware of their immediate surroundings. They react and can even be influenced by what’s going on around them, out in the world. Babies have been known to react to the voice of a parent while still in the womb.

Folks are programmed to be rich, poor, generous or miserly. People are a product or the result of programming, consciously or unconsciously through their environment, parents, families, schools, teachers, friends, neighbors etc. Because of the nature of the fallen man, most people will get negative programming even before they’re born. There’s a reason why people, including your spouse, are they way they are. There’s a reason why you are the way you are.

Programming produces belief systems and belief systems determine the information you imbibe or reject, your thinking, your words and your actions. Your actions form your habits and your habits determine the kind of life you live. I hope you can now see why its been impossible for you to easily change your spouse into the spouse of your dreams.

Unless your spouse has behaved or is behaving in a manner that you cannot be reasonably expected to live with them, you’ll  enjoy a lot more peace and tranquility if you learn to adapt to them early in your marriage. If you married someone because they promised to change after marriage, they may not change even if they mean to, if they were programmed that way.

This is my counsel to you. If you’re married, it’s best to learn to adapt to the one you’re married to. The sooner you adapt, the less stress you’ll give yourself. If you’re single, well, if you don’t like people the way they are, don’t marry them.


Dear Lord Jesus, I thank you for the fruit of the recreated human spirit that’s resident in me. I declare that I am gentle and long-suffering towards my spouse. I receive Grace to accept my spouse the  way they are and to learn to adapt to them. Amen


Romans 7:18-23, Galatians 5:22, Philippians 4:13